If you are an adult, whether you realize it or not, you have created an invisible bubble around yourself called the comfort zone. We all do. Your comfort zone includes all your activities and preferences, the lifestyle you have created for yourself. It is also linked to your self-concept, what you believe are your strengths and weaknesses, your talents and lacks, your abilities and limitations.
We are all creatures of habit, and we all love order and stability in our lives. We all have the need to make our lives as predictable as possible, and create a sense of regularity, structure, and smooth functioning. We do not like to experience chaos in our lives, nor do we enjoy taking on extreme challenges that threaten our sense of calm and over-stress us. Our personal bubble, our comfort zone takes care of all that, by playing a Y2mate selective, organizing and protective role.
In order to satisfy the above-mentioned needs, and in connection to our self-concept, we include in our personal bubble our professional or career choices, our hobbies, the kind of friends or people we like to hang out with, our leisure activities, even such mundane things as the kinds of products we buy, or the kinds of meals we prefer.
Soon enough, though, order, stability, regularity, predictability, and structure turn into routine, sameness, rigidity and a sense of constriction and under-stimulation. The very bubble that we ourselves constructed begins to choke us, but often we don’t realize the reason why we feel so stifled in our lives. This is when our comfort zone is no longer working for us. This is when we need to step out of it and create new experiences for ourselves.
So, if you are feeling stuck, stifled, bored, restless and can’t figure out what’s the matter with you, it’s quite possible that you feel the need for change and more challenge and variety in your life and you need to step out of your comfort zone.
To create this sense of change and variety without threatening to disturb your other needs of stability, order, etc., at least in the beginning, you don’t have to take any BIG steps that might intimidate you.
For example, say you you have been faithfully attending the same aerobics class for the past 3-4 years (because you have buddies in that group, because it fits nicely in your schedule, because you like the trainer, etc) but lately you feel just a little less eager and motivated to go to your class. This is a signal that you need to step out of your comfort zone and try something else, like Pilates, or Yoga. I’m sure that as you read this suggestion a lot of “yes, buts” are at the tip of your tongue..Well, that’s the problem, the comfort zone is resistant to change, so you have to override it. You have to break your bubble and step out of it to create variety in your life, to become more stimulated and feel more alive.
If you examine your daily, weekly, monthly, or yearly schedule and habits carefully you will notice that there are things that you ALWAYS do the SAME way. You always go to the movies on Sunday. You always cook roast on Saturday. You always take the same route to work. You always shop at the same supermarket, you always buy the same brand of tea, you always drink coffee in the morning. Sure, these are all elements of your comfort zone, but now they are causing you discomfort!